Emotional intelligence is the art of valid reasoning with emotions. E.I. is also the ability to regulate, understand and identify emotions. Being able to translate affects to emotions is another important part of being emotionally intelligent. The five components of emotional intelligence are:
- Internal motivation
- Social skills
Someone with high emotional intelligence communicates himself freely, can manage his impulses, handles change well, and also can feel compassion towards people around him. Being able to have good judgement in when to think logically and when to trust your feelings is important too – it’s all about balance. The emotionally intelligent person is able to lighten up tense situations and has good understanding of other people’s views and motives.
Intuitives are generally more emotionally intelligent
In some studies emotional intelligence has been linked to different aspects of the personality. For example, the intuitive mind seems to have a correlation to higher emotional intelligence than the sensory mind. The ability to draw conclusions from subjective interpretations seems to matter in this case. Intuitives are known for their abstract thinking, which allows them to “read between the lines” when it comes to social context and emotions. Being able to easily find original ideas may also matter when it comes to influence on others.
Feelers are also statistically more emotionally intelligent. They are often more sensitive to the emotions of others, and more skilled in identifying them. However, if the person is very sensitive, that might make him less able to regulate his own emotions. According to a study on correlations between personality traits and emotional intelligence, high scores on neuroticism was related to low emotional intelligence. Apparently, these students couldn’t manage their anxiety or stress levels, and failed on the self-regulation part of E.I.
So if you’re sensitive to the feelings of people around you but are having a harder time staying emotionally balanced or motivated yourself: that’s your next area of improvement. The good news about emotional intelligence is that, in contrast to IQ, it is something you can develop a lot with some effort.
Do introverts or extroverts have the highest E.I.?
They are emotionally intelligent in different ways. According to this study, extroverts are more emotionally intelligent than introverts are. But extroversion should be thought of as a social battery that lasts longer than the introverted person’s battery, rather than guaranteed social intelligence. So this doesn’t mean that extroverts understand other people or feelings better or with more depth than introverts do. Most introverts reflect more upon their experiences than the average extrovert and introverts are often more self-aware. In Maria Ashraf Malik’s study the results show that introverts are the most emotionally intelligent.
According to the cognitive functions, the introverted feeling function user has developed intrapersonal intelligence, and the extroverted feeling user scores high on interpersonal intelligence. Fi users are good at knowing their own feelings and Fe users are “people-smart”.
Type can’t measure E.I.
It is important to remember that personality type can’t be used as a tool to predict an individual’s emotional intelligence. There are too many other components that play a role when it comes to people’s relationship to emotions (such as experience, trauma, current resilience, and motivation, as well as neuroticism, conscientiousness, and so on). Some aspects of type do however indicate a likelihood of social talent.