The Sidekick State


The SidekickThe sidekick represents your sense of fun and humor, what you enjoy, and your more childish side. The sidekick dislikes challenge and responsibility and instead attempts to provide you with balance and relief. Instead of learning, it suggests you rest and have fun. The goal of the sidekick is to live a life free from responsibility and external demands. Problems with procrastination often come from this inner archetype.

Function: Tertiary / Third function
Jungian term:
The Child
Age:
Young Developed: After the superego
Positive role:
 Relief
Negative role: Immaturity
Quote: “What about me?”

Keywords: Carefree, childish, playful, immature, humorous, selfish, irresponsible, your more basic needs and desires, and your inner childs fears and worries.

The Four States

Each state is associated with one of the eight intelligences: for example the hero may be a philosopher, a detective, an artist or a performer.

The Hero Your first function
The Mentor Your second function
The Sidekick Your third function
The Villain Your fourth function

The Sidekick State

Your inner sidekick represents things that boost your motivation and which reward you for positive deeds. But your sidekick can also represent your neuroticism, your worries, and things that scare you. When you’re feeling neurotic or anxious, your inner sidekick may want to kick in. This is to ensure you find balance, but at worst, it may prevent you from rising up to important challenges.

If the presence of the third function becomes too predominant, you may reject important responsibilities and things that will lead to growth. In general, this more childish side should only ensure your growth is well grounded, and that you don’t forget about yourself when you’re on your mission. Sometimes, to help others, you also need to ensure that you are well taken care of yourself.

An interesting manifestation of the third function is as an unexpected super-skill. Perhaps there is something in this state that you are exceptionally good at? A hidden power or something that you were often praised for as a kid? The third function can come off as something you are good at, but which people don’t expect you to be good at.

Remember that the scope of this skill is not as strong or broad as it is for a person who uses this function predominantly, and that this skill may only have limited use within a set field. Remember also, that while you may be good at this, you might not particularily enjoy or grow from it. This skill accurately conveys the difference between a hobby and a passion or mission.

Your sidekick is generally opposed to the mentor. It questions the mentors strictness and control. It worries the mentor is false or trying to mislead you in your quest. The sidekick has the goal of integrating you with the trickster. But finding ways to balance between the two is crucial to finding the power to complete your quest. The process of finding balance between the mentor and the sidekick can be described as a grounding process.

Development

The sidekick is developed after your superego begins to reject certain aspects of you that it deems immature, childish, or unrelated to your mission or what your environment asks from you. This side begins to be more developed when you experience stress to decide what you want to do with your life, often in your teenage years. When you’re thinking about what you like, what you want, and your own needs, this third function is unusually present.

Integrating the sidekick

The sidekick is integrated when it meets the trickster, the unconscious, seventh function. The trickster, just as the sidekick has the goal of teaching you balance. It wants to ensure that you don’t forget about your basic needs and fears. But the trickster has a different way of teaching you this lesson, and can be perceived as more manipulative and controlling. Remember that this is often only from your own perception.

By tricking you into doing things you don’t want. It teaches you to become more assertive of your own space, and informs you about your true feelings about the situation. The trickster also makes you more wary of others secret intentions and how others may try to control you. The trickster function is not only found in other people but also in your own environment. For example in the problems you tackle, and in the obstacles you encounter. When you’re feeling like you’re in a trap or like something isn’t going as intended, that may be your conscious perception of the trickster.

Grounding the sidekick

The sidekick is grounded when we accept that we must take responsibility for our own situation and do our best to take care of ourselves and our own life. This can be similar to getting out of the victim mentality, where it feels like everyone else is in control or to blame for your situation.

When you are feeling a loss of power or like you have no control over your life, you need the sidekick to assert your own space and your needs. What can you do to become more responsible? How can you get back in the driver seat again? If things appear beyond your control, what are the small things you can do to get more of your power back?

Be wary here if other people aren’t letting you grow or if other people are holding you back. Tell them you need to learn to do things on your own, and ask them to be patient with you, as you learn. It doesn’t have to be perfect, as long as you’re able to get it done, you will improve in time.